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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Take it from an old timer here - you are busy because you want to be busy. Someone told this to me years ago and I thought they were totally off their rocker. As it turns out, they are right. Being busy is a CHOICE. You can rearrange your life to not be so busy. You don't have to keep up with the Joneses. [b]You don't have to be in the rat race. You are CHOOSING to live your life this way.[/b] This takes a very long time to understand. But once you do, you can begin to peel back the layers and make changes that work for you and your family.[/quote]

100% spot on.

we've made the changes and it has paid off in huge dividends for all of us, 3 kids and DH and myself.[/quote]

Can you please say what changes?[/quote]

with 3 kids, it was just too much to have them involved in every conceivable activity (many were just bc their friends were on the team).  So we told them to pick 1 sport/activity for the fall and one for the spring.  That has cut down our Saturday schedule of events by 2/3.

Second, instead of going out every Friday or to a friend's house for potluck, DH will order food and we eat in and play games as a family.  DH and I do date night every 2 weeks and I am so happy I'm not trying to constantly stay in contact with my girlfriends.  We text and communicate enough with each other but just having the time alone with DH is priceless.  He talks with his friends and the only plan an outing for all of us every 6 weeks or so.  And when I do want to see my GFs, I am the one to have everyone over for drinks or wine (everyone knows DH always has a superb collection - and he makes sure that he has great stuff to serve us).

I guess just not feeding into the social pressure to stay always connected to friends has been the biggest thing for all of us. We still do a fair amount of running around for the kids (play dates, birthday parties, etc.), but it's so much less stressful when you don't have this compelling need to also always see my GFs. And by entertaining more at home it's just so much less hassle for all of us.

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