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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here and I'm sure I'll get fried for this one but we don't do television really especially not on vacation. My husband has many hobbies but spends 90% of his free time w us which still isn't much since he works a lot. [b]We are figuring it all out w the work life balance and spending time together and spending time as a family[/b]. I don't love how my MIL only wants to spend an hour a day max w me and my son and an afternoon w my husband since we are on a trip together. My MIL is bossy and my husband is intimidated by her. When he brings up including us in an afternoon alone time she gets defensive. [/quote]

You are still blaming your MIL for your issues.  If your family balance was healthy, then no one should have a problem with your husband spending one afternoon a year visiting with his mother alone.  Whatever, reasons that you blam your MIL for your and your son's insecurity over dad not being around for 4 hours, those need to be fixed without putting the blame on your MIL.  Put yourself in her place.  You raised your son to adulthood, and he moves away and only comes to visit once per year for a few days and won't even spend one afternoon with you alone like he's afraid to be alone with you.  While your daughter-in-law is nice, you want some one on one time to just talk to your son like you did for the first 22 years of his life, but now you only get group visits with your son not one on one time to just catch up, reminisce about some of your favorite memories of him as a child/teen/young man without having to stop and explain what this story means, or why it means so much to you.

Fix your family dynamic with your husband and son and your MIL's request will not feel so threatening or bothersome.  [/quote]

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