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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here... my MIL is crazy and my husband absolutely won't stand up to her...My husband for some odd reason is utterly terrified of his mother and would never disobey her. She would DIE if he showed up w our child as our son is relegated to the kitchen only of her house and backyard not the front.[/quote]

Your DH is the real problem. He needs to stand up to his mother and set healthy boundaries for his adult family. "For some odd reason" he is terrified of her? Have you never discussed this with him? You need to start communicating with your DH and holding him accountable instead of just going along with it and then blaming your crazy MIL. [/quote]

Different PP here.  I agree that DH is the real problem, but I don't think they need healthy boundaries with his mother so much as he needs to find alone time to be with his own wife and son sometime during the 51 weeks they are at home so that the one week they are with his mother, it isn't a problem for him to spend 4 hours alone with her.

OP's issues are the her child yearns for time with his dad, but his dad can only make time for him the one week all year they go to visit grandma?  I'm sorry, but he needs to set aside at least one day/period per week when he actually interacts with his son.  I get being busy.  My day job is not so busy, but I have a second PT job that will ultimately develop into my second career when I retire from my first and it does keep me pretty busy.  What this means is that I have to lose some of my hobbies and personal time so that I still interact with my children routinely.  It's irresponsible to procreate and then abandon those children, but some people seem to feel that their me-time trumps their responsibility to their children.  That's lamentable.  He needs to man-up and actually parent his son and if it means that he has to give up one of his hobbies for now, he needs to do it.  Trying to book family time on a visit to grandma and blame her wanting 4 hours a year to spend with her son is ludicrous.  If the family time is so important, don't bother going, but then my guess is that this loser dad would find some other way to fill his time rather than spending it with his wife and kid.  [/quote]

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