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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I miss the teasing and flirting, the cat and mouse game of trying to figure out if the other person is interested, daring them to make the first move, trying to hold back my own desire.

The actual affair? Not so much. But the feeling of chasing and being chased, yes, absolutely. [/quote]

This is why I think sometimes after they're caught the cheating spouse is suddenly once again wildly in love with the betrayed spouse and desperate to win them back. That push-pull dynamic is reintroduced to the marriage whereas before the affair it might have felt stale and boring. [/quote]

This is what I don't get. I did not find myself wildly in love with betrayed spouse again after I was caught. Does that really happen? How many cheaters really get that HOLY SHIT, I love my spouse moment? Or is it that they just don't want to deal with the hassle & pain of divorce/loss of seeing children daily/stress on children?[/quote]

Men love their spouse... women don't love anybody including themselves ... which is why they cheat... they are trying to "fill the abyss". [/quote]

What? Women cheat to fill the abyss but men cheat --- because they really love their spouses? Seriously?[/quote]

Yes. Read Frankl it will explain the need to find happiness "meaning in life" and how people fill the abyss with sex, drugs, alcohol, material things. Women just need that next man to "be happy" since they can't find it in themselves.

Men that cheat are just selfish pigs... they take the window seat, eat the big piece of chicken, throw their laundry on the floor, forget their wife's birthday... they love their wife but they just want what they want and don't care about how their wants (which they call "needs") hurt others.
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"Ah-ha moment". Hits the nail on the head for me and my spouse (we both cheated at different stages in life, btw). [/quote]

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