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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I like this woman. We were becoming friends. SIL told her I hated her and it all became awkward. Goal? Make it less awkward and possibly repair a friendship. I do have to see this person multiple times a year and would love for it to not be awkward.[/quote]

Way to attain goal? Communicate directly with Sherry (the name I've decided to give your husband's "girlfriend" from middle school). Clear the air. "Sherry, I know things have been weirdly tense because SIL thinks that you and I don't get along. I think you're cool and am looking forward to seeing you at Christmas. We get in on the 22nd. Wanna get coffee or cocktails on the 23rd?"

I also don't understand why SIL is bringing Sherry to family events. Is it possible that THEY are in a relationship? Is it common in your H's family to bring non-relatives to small family get togethers?[/quote]

SIL is married and has a kid. In all the time I've been with DH(10 years) never has anyone besides immediate family and ine aunt been at Christmas.[/quote]

Does Sherry have a family of her own? Why is she spending holidays with your family and not hers?[/quote]

They celebrate early because her mother goes to see her other daughter on the actual day of.[/quote]

Sherry isn't married? No kids of her own?[/quote]

She's a single mom. Has a son my nephews age. At some point this ex was dating another one of SIL's relatives. She's also had a fling with DH's cousin. [/quote]

Is your husband from a small town? It sounds like he is. In which case, this all makes sense. Middle school events are very present for grown adults. Lots of intermingling in the dating pool. Drama-rama.

My advice stands. Get in touch with Sherry. Tell her that you're sorry about the weird awkwardness from SIL, that you think she's awesome and look forward to seeing her. Then let it go. If SIL makes an awkward scene, you could make an announcement saying, "Hi everyone, Sherry and I are fine. Please stop being weird" but that is not likely to de-escalate the drama.[/quote]

Yes, DH is from a tiny gossipy town. I however am not. This is all so strange to me.[/quote]

Yeah, it's pretty clear that you're out of your depth. Smooth things over with Sherry, and be normal. Just ignore it.[/quote]

She can't smooth things over with Sherry by making SIL look like a sh*t stirrer.  SIL probably is, in fact, a sh*t stirrer - doesn't matter - SIL is the one who is Sherry's old friend.  This is SIL's family and they will take her side over Op's side  -guaranteed.

It is what it is.

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