Reply to Intimacy vs sex-- which is more important?

Forum Index » Relationship Discussion (non-explicit)

Reply to "Intimacy vs sex-- which is more important?"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Women who can enjoy sex and easily and predictably O don't turn down sex. That is also backed up by research... so if you are not getting it, you most likely are not giving her an O easily and predictably or you have turned it into her "responsiblity"... both don't describe free/healthy/fun.

If you wife does not expect any money from you she won't be grumpy when your money is gone... it's her expectation that as a grown adult she needs somebody else's money that makes her unhappy not the fact there is no money.

You have clearly turned your wife into a fee for sex marriage... you have money and she has the booty and she better give it up. You are unhealthy ... it's sad actually. I have empathy for your wife and future lovers.

What planet do you live on... there is a "woman's viagra" pill... there is also a pill that kills the sex life ... it's call "the pill" ... educated yourself

good luck with your very uneducated and rigid view on marriage... your step children are bound to love you.  :roll: [/quote]
As predicted, you raise the "he sucks in bed" argument. I believe my abilities are perfectly fine to "give" her an O easily/predictably. And I'm even OK to call this "my" responsibility (thereby absolving her of doing any work or bringing anything into our sexlife). If I were sexually selfish, or unable/unwilling to ensure her full satisfaction, if she were not enjoying sex, that would have come out a year before the wedding date was ever set, right? And I've not lost any skills, or motivation, over the years.

I just used the bank account example to draw an analogy with your "ooh, he is grumpy therefore I won't have sex with him" concept. Feel free to substitute that with your most important love language. The point being if you mistreat your spouse by choosing not to meet his/her important/legitimate need, don't be surprised when he/she gets grumpy. And it is disingenuous to then use his/her reaction as justification for continued mistreatment.

My marriage is not sex for a fee. You take my bank account example too literally. My marriage, like most good marriages, is both partners working to meet the needs of my spouse, according to HER priorities.

As to female viagra, you've glossed over my point of male Viagra treating a [u]physical[/u] symptom whereas, the purported female viagra attempts to treat the [u]mental[/u] condition (loss of interest in sex). Google female viagra. You will see that the "little pink pill" Flibanserin is quite controversial in that the benefits are so miniscule versus placebo that the FDA twice rejected this drug, only last year did FDA (reluctantly) approve the drug. So please don't be offended at my skepticism over this drug because I am in the majority. I should have qualified my statement that there will never be an [u]meaningfully effective[/u] female viagra. Believe me I hope to be proven wrong on that point!
[/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics