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And, OP, my husband's family comes from a conesrvative culture where divorce is frowned upon.

But it didn't stop my husband's brother from divorcing!

Counting on cultural values to stop a marriage from imploding because YOU are placing undue pressure on that marriage seems downright cruel, don't you think?

Are you ready to take responsibility for your role in making your son and your DIL unhappy? Do they deserve this from you? They only have one life to live, let them live it according to their lights. They have two babies for God's sake - I would be so resentful to miss that window of time to enjoy them!

You've had your turn already! Shut up now.
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+1 I'm quite sure if your DIL is miserable enough and feels abandoned in her marriage she'll seriously consider divorce. I think her venting to you is a sure sign of it. In fact, I think her revealing her feelings to you was a warning to back off or the marriage could end. And if they do stay together but the damage is done and you continue your role as meddling MIL from hell, your grandkids will grow up in a loveless, joyless home. Congrats! You win! And by the way, the way you insinuate that your DIL made a bad decision by not wanting her children to be 5-6 years apart is very telling about you. So their childbearing plans didn't fit with your grand plan, puppeteer  MIL? Get ready to start feeling the isolating shift where they come up with holiday plans that don't involve you, where they conveniently forget to tell you about school assemblies where families are invited, where birthdays are "friend parties" and not extended family. Don't kid yourself...your DIL is the boss and scheduler. [/quote]

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