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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here again.  I'm glad to see there's some sympathy for my discomfort with this situation.  Maybe humble/humility wasn't the right word - - what I really don't like is that she has no self-awareness and consideration for other people.  (This is in keeping with her personality.) [b] In talking about the wedding there's never even been a conversation about how they decided to do what they're doing.[/b]  It just really is press Repeat on the first wedding except this time she upped the ante by doing a Catholic mass.

Honestly if I were getting remarried, I would love to just throw an awesome party and not deal with the hoopla of a big ceremony. I certainly wouldn't impose on any 40-something sister in law to be a bridesmaid!

Oh and I still have the dress from her first wedding because it's been sitting in my attic for 10 yrs, along with other bridesmaid dresses that I've accumulated but never had the heart to get rid of.

Part of me wants to wear dress #1 to the rehearsal dinner (OF COURSE they're having a big one).  I kid, but seriously, it would be amusing. [/quote]

[b]Why would they need to talk to you about this[/b]? They can do what they want. This is how weddings go, certainly you've been to some. Some couples a loony and selfish and make unreasonable requests, some are the opposite. The only thing you can control is how you respond, and if you don't want other people judging you the same way you're judging her then respond with kindness in setting your boundaries. [/quote]

+1.  Op seems to be making so many assumptions here about their motivations and desires.  She has no idea how they reached the conclusion to have this wedding and why should she be privy to this information?

Op sounds like she has some sort of problem with the SIL.  Reminds me of my inlaws.  I can't do anything right.  If I had a huge second wedding they would judge and if I had a tiny backyard wedding they would judge as well.

Overall I really don't see a huge problem or anything to worry myself over.  Just attend or don't attend the wedding and put a smile on your face and be nice.  [/quote]

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