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[quote=Anonymous]OP, I think your frustration with the school is misplaced - and it's a way of avoiding directing your frustration toward your daughter. I get it: your daughter is a kind person, and she  also seems to feel responsible for helping her roommate. All that says wonderful things about her.

But your expectation that the university should dispatch someone every day to visit and befriend a freshman in a psych ward simply so that your daughter won't feel obliged to do so misses the mark. First of all, that's not a viable expectation for any educational institution. Think about how many crises are at play at any given moment in a "medium sized university" - dozens, if not more, students are experiencing some kind of acute medical issue and/or related personal fallout.

The university's responsibility is to make sure that its students get the help they need, which is happening with your daughter's roommate. They can't (and probably shouldn't) do more. Your daughter obviously has a kind heart, but she is over involved in her roommate's situation. Why is that - is she unhappy at school for other reasons? Or if it's just the fallout from the roommate, she needs to get some therapy to deal with that. You need to appreciate that she is in her own crisis, and you should deal with that. Stop focusing on the school and focus on your daughter.[/quote]

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