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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm 41, my kids are 17 and 15.

I have friends just starting to have kids. That would suck.
We are young and healthy, I'm a few years we can travel WHILE STILL HEALTHY. 
No medications or canes needed.
 Hopefully we can do this for 20 years or more. Yeah, we are lucky and smart.[/quote]

Oh, please. Stop patting yourself on the back. Your good fortune to meet your partner and have kids when you were young has nothing to do with being smart. Is it so hard to imagine that others didn't have the option to have kids in their 20s and early 30s? the OP's question was about parenting in your 50s, not a request for those who had kids younger to gloat and speculate about being an older parent.

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I front-loaded my adventures.  I lived abroad in my 20s and had fantastic life experiences.  Would not trade those memories for anything.

Met my husband when I was 33, married at 35.  I am 55 now and my kids are 18 and 16.

None of us has complete control over when we meet our spouses and marry anyway.[/quote]

Thanks for posting. I'm not the OP but am interested in what it's like to have high school kids in your 50s. I am younger than you are now but had my kids at the same age you did. Do you feel the same as earlier PPs (tired, worried about retirement plus college)? I have no regrets about it but I wonder and worry sometimes about what this will be like when I'm approaching 60. [/quote]

If you started to save for your retirement before you had kids and if you started to save for college when your kids were little and you continue to put money away each month.....it will add up, even if you don't make big $$$$.

As far as having teens in your 50's goes, I can not imagine having an empty nest right now.  I love having our teens at home - they keep us on our toes and we genuinely enjoy spending time with them.  They are awesome kids, easy, minimal stress.  I know that we lucked out and that if one or both of them had a different personality that things could be very different for us.  Even so, I think that we are still young enough to have the stamina to deal with their issues and old enough to have the patience/wisdom to guide them through life.  Mid/late 30's, as it turns out, was a good time for us to have kids.  I don't think we, personally, would have enjoyed parenting them as much if we had had them much younger than we did.  But that's us.

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