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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]"What is he good at?" Does people really believe everyone has a talent ... some people aren't just lazy and dumb?[/quote]

Yes, some people really believe that everyone has different strengths.  But treating someone like they're lazy and dumb is a great way to guarantee that behavior continues.[/quote]

I failed out of one junior college and then barely squeaked through a second one.  I'm organized as hell (as a kid, you never would have seen that one coming), GREAT at problem-solving, GREAT at customer service. I make $84k as a legal secretary. My cousins have masters degrees and one is a teacher and one is a news anchor. I have no loans and earn more than each of them. School isn't everything.

Also, the two cousins have both said they don't read anything other than Us Weekly or Redbook magazines. Right now I'm reading:  Augusten Burroughs - Lust & Wonder, Wendy Suziki - Healthy Brain, Happy Life, and Amy Schumer - The Girl With the Lower Back Tattoo.  It's not Shakespeare, but it keeps my thoughts interesting.

When you're a kid, your worth is predicted based on school, which is your profession. If you suck at school, it's assumed you suck at life. Even if nobody says that, it's conveyed to you from multiple people, in multiple ways. But it's not true. For some people, sure, school is a lifeline, a map of how to get where they want to go. But for people like me, it just kills the self esteem and makes you want to die until you get some bullshit job after school and realize "Holy shit, I could actually be GOOD at something!" Sure it was a retail job in the mall, but it made me realize the traditional route was not for me. [/quote]

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