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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]God, why does every DCUM post read like this. " I am a perfect DW but I don't want to have any sex with my DH because he is mean, uncaring, lazy, unemployed, fat, ugly, distant, depressed, angry, poor, workaholic (pick any two).[/quote]

Because I'm a perfect DW who works out daily, and my mean, uncaring, fat, ugly, depressed, angry, poor, workaholic husband doesn't deserve my size two self with double Ds. Oh, and he's impotent. Jesus, I have it bad.

Sigh.

But really, who doesn't look at oneself and not see a practically perfect person? It is much easy to excuse ones own behavior than somebody else's.[/quote]

Jesus, for the sake of men, I hope he's impotent or gay.  I have no idea how any sane, healthy man couldn't keep his hands off of you.  By the ton of your post, I'm guessing you have a high drive, so how do you maintain your sanity?[/quote]

It is a desperate situation; it is extremely difficult being perfect. [/quote]

don't know if ^this was the PP or someone else replying to my post, but  I can only sympathize.  My wife hasn't had any interest in sex more than once every 6-8 weeks.  With 3 kids who we both adore, I am deeply conflicted in terms of what I should do.  Yet, I do earn 5x as much as she does, and yet I have regularly (and still do) planned date nights, plan the big family vacations, take on roughly half of the kid duty (shuttling them around to practices, sports, events, etc.), do homework every night, maintained myself in terms of being in god shape, I dress really well, do the dishes, laundry, fix things around the house, etc., etc.  When I am home or when I am with family, I am 100% present.

to make matters worse, I know there are moms (married and single moms who fit your own description) who have flirted and shown interest in me when I'm at one of our kid's school events - I kind of stick out as I'm a minority in an otherwise all-white, high income school.  Do be honest, I have been tempted to return the flirtation, and even thought about the "what if" I would pursue it.  But even though my love for my family has held me back from taking that step, I am near my own breaking point.  I'm not perfect by any means, but I can tell you it feels incredible knowing that women want me as I haven't felt that for years now.  My dilemma is can I keep my own sanity w/o succumbing to my own desires.

So my heart goes out to you, PP. [/quote]

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