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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]SAHM here. I'm side eyeing all these responses which claim that the PTA is just an empty "excuse" to get out at night for a meeting in which nothing important is discussed.

Oh sorry then why am I volunteering in the library, art class, and computer center three times a week? Plus being the room mom for one of my kids' teachers? Because it's an empty excuse and there is no real need for the help??? If there was no need for the help, then why am I being asked to do all this stuff? They'd be able to spread it out more if more parents were involved. Come on people. Open your eyes. [/quote]

I have been both a SAHM and now I WOH. I volunteer only slightly less than when I SAH. Instead of criticizing the other women, I feel we should criticize the fathers! They show a remarkable lack of participation. All the children's activities with school is usually thrown onto the mothers. Most women (SAH and WOH) are doing plenty for their families. [b]Come on Dads, let pick up some slack![/b][/quote]

Honestly I don't know about this. We have three kids who have been variously involved in soccer, lacrosse, and baseball. [b]At their level, it is all parent volunteers who coach and ump and by far and away it is all fathers doing it, including the co-ed leagues for soccer. So it's not that they don't volunteer to help their kids[/b]. It's just that it's still a pretty retro breakdown (mothers in the school, fathers out on the ball field).

Who can say which is more important for kids' well being? I'd say you need both (but we are a really active family).[/quote]

This. My DH coaches every single season. He coaches three sports and coaches a travel team. He spends hours upon hours working with these kids. Today, in the heat, we have  two back to back flag football games and a practice.  He went out to the store and bought a big canopy to keep them covered and a bunch of other things to keep them cool. He has spent time planning for the games and fielding a ton of calls, emails, and texts from the parents.

I can tell you, my boys much more value his time on the field than my time in the classroom.  It's not even a contest.[/quote]

Good for him.  However, he is not the norm.  I have been class mom for 4 years now for both my girls.  The volunteer list and participation is 98% moms, and Even 2% is generous.  This thread perpetuates the idea that working dads are excused from being involved.  Just remember...it takes a village to make it work.....[/quote]

He is the norm. The vast majority, maybe 98% of volunteers out on the fields and running the volunteer children's sports leagues are men. Not women. [/quote]

PP was stating that most dads are simply not that involved period. Yes most coaches are dads; most dads are not coaches. Most classroom interaction is done by moms; most moms are pretty involved with their kids classroom (at least for pta involvement, pt conferences, etc).

And I guess non-sporty dads are kind of cut out here. [/quote]

The other thing is that there are a lot of perks with coaching that doesn't happen with other volunteering. You get to move your kid up a level, you get to pick who your kid plays with. You get to pick the day and time of practice often. What position they play. It's not all so altruistic.[/quote]

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