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I am wondering if it is because he is seeing me as mostly a mother now  (and seeing me giving birth, I told him not to look but he insisted ), that has killed all sexual interest for me :(
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To OP: you tossed in this detail near the end of the last page (5?) and it might be pertinent. There was a fairly recent thread, a couple of weeks ago, launched by a man who had lost all sexual desire for his wife after witnessing her birth canal. He just could not shake the image. He was either seeing other women or planning to because he just could not fathom putting his equipment in the (temporarily) huge opening through which he had watched a baby emerge. Everyone was telling him to get over it but he couldn't. If that was your DH or someone like him, lingerie and little come-ons won't solve the problem. If he doesn't look at you, maybe he is mired in that image and actively avoiding you.

That DH would never tell his wife what the real problem was, the birthing image. Just stopped having sex with no intention of resuming.

Your thread now feels like the companion to that one. [/quote]

I know, but it is the thread that made me think about it. As a lot of people are thinking about cheating/gay options and I am quite convinced those 2 are not the reason I am looking somewhere else. I'll go look at that thread, but if I was a man I could really understand that feeling.

Linked to that, I also always wanted more "kinky" sex than him I think, he is more romantic than me and cannot go for things that could sound "disrespectful" in the bedroom. And I suspect that it is a bit difficult for him to have the mother/wife/"whore" in the same person (not accusing him of ever wanted to pay for sex, that's really not his type).

So I add birthing vision as paths to explore with the couple therapist...[/quote]

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