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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Op, can you please explain why you refused to order? I get that your mom was being totally weird, but I don't get why you dug in your heels. Do you have takeout order anxiety, too? Or were you just enjoying the power struggle? Or what?

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OP here.  I was tired and cranky.  I had just walked into the house after a rough day, hadn't even set my stuff down when she told me to order the food.  I told her she could order it.  Her response was that if I didn't order it, she wasn't buying it.  I said it looks like it's leftovers then.  DH said he'd order it.  She repeated that if I didn't order it, she wasn't buying.

A whole lot of baggage was contained in that brief interaction.  Was I being a crank?  Yes, I was.  Did I dig in my heels?  I sure did. I know it can be difficult to understand why I reacted the way I did if you haven't grown up with a controlling/manipulative parent.  If I had to do it over again, I'd do it the exact same way.  What worked for her in the past is no longer effective.  She needs to learn that.[/quote]

It would have been better if you didn't react so badly.  She still wins because now you will feel guilty and have to make up to her, she still got her way! :idea: [/quote]

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