Reply to When your friends live large and you feel like a loser . . .

Forum Index » Money and Finances

Reply to "When your friends live large and you feel like a loser . . ."

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, I know lots of people like this in NYC. Some have family money propping them up and others are just living large. Overall, people in both camps are lacking in some aspect in their  lives. It is a tough place to live and truly thrive. Nearly all the husbands are cheating or seriously contemplating cheating. Women are too busy working out and barely eating to keep the man while nannies raise children, who all are recreational drug users. One friend earns 600k and lives paycheck to paycheck. Husband cheats on her left and right while she's out slaving away to keep the money rolling in to maintain the luxury 2 bedroom apartment on the East side. I still envy their real estate but nothing beyond that because as I have grown up,I realize the quality of my suburban life  is far nicer. Next time you are up there, really look at their lives closely and you will see huge holes. NYC friends of NYC friends are not deep friendships. It's really a messed up place. Here, I live very very well by DC standards but my NYC friends would shoot themselves if they woke up with my life. [b]It's all smoke and mirrors up there[/b]. Be thankful that you got out of the scene. [/quote]

Yes.  My friend just received a 12k bracelet for birthday from her husband.  But they don't even own their own home.  They live in a crappy rental and are all about appearances.  They go to the best parties, high end clothing, ridiculously expensive jewelry etc.  yet they are probably too good for the house we own.  It's all a joke.  [/quote]

Wouldn't say it's ALL smoke and mirrors. There are professionals in NYC who only want to stay there so they buy themselves a "regular" 600k 1 bedroom and start working their way thru the mortgage for the next 30 yrs like anyone else. But yeah -- there's a LOT of smoke and mirrors too.

[b]What I can't stand are the "friends" who mock me for leaving/where I live now.[/b] They are currently trying to figure out how to make a family of 3 or 4 fit into a 1 bedroom or how to stretch into a 2 bedroom bc they will NOT leave the city, while also figuring out how to swing private school -- and I'm supposed to tell them how noble all those sacrifices are. And yet after visiting me in Ballston (in a high rise - not a SFH), they tell me -- if I had to live here I'd shoot myself. While the apartment I live in now would easily rent for 6-7k in NYC and could house a family of 4, it's just "not worth it" bc you give up so much. [b]When asked what I give up -- well I can't have dumplings delivered to me a 2 am. Uh ok -- I'm thinking about a mortgage and 401k, you're thinking about delivery options[/b]. [/quote]

They are most likely insecure.  The NY friends who knock me are the ones spending all of their money on rent, travel and dining out.  My friends who own expensive apartments in the city and can truly afford to live there would never knock me.

New Yorkers love to throw out the delivery options. I am in my 30s and don't need unlimited delivery options.  I ordered delivery when I was hungover in my 20s.  There are enough delivery options in dc anyway that you can order food in if you need to do so.  I understand your point about being able to fully fund your 401k and pay down your mortgage.  I think the mindset in NY is such that there's way less focus on this kind of stuff and more focus on spending snd doing anything you can get your hands on.

[/quote]

Ah yes -- the delivery options. A favorite of people when they are making the argument for why they can NEVER live anywhere besides NYC.[/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics