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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Do you people live in a world where no one ever gets sick or disabled?  I recently found out I have a genetic disorder that is literally destroying my body from the inside out. One of the things that has been destroyed is my thyroid. I take synthetic thyroid hormones, but it hasn't helped. My joints and connective tissue are also disintegrating, so I am not allowed to workout aside from no-impact aquatic therapy, and even that is becoming problematic. I also have to take medication known for causing weight gain so I don't, you know, die. So I've gained 40 lbs, going from a size 0-2 to a 10-12. I can tell just from the difference in the way my husband treats me that he no longer finds me attractive (although other people do - I'm tall, so I carry the weight well and don't have rolls or a double chin or anything).  Add the strain on our relationship and finances from my having to stop working, and I'm depressed.  I had to give up wine because of the meds, so now I end up indulging in a bowl of ice cream every night just to make life seem bearable for a few minutes.  Glad to know all of this makes me a horrible spouse. It confirms the message I'm getting from my own spouse. I didn't ask to get sick and I'm in constant, debilitating physical pain, but I guess I should get used to the emotional abuse from my husband because after all, I brought this on myself by being a horrible spouse who isn't 29 and underweight anymore. Bait and switch, amirite?[/quote]

You know sickness isn't the same as not trying. Stop baiting people.

Plus, even with sickness, yeah,  your husband may not like the new normal. If my husband got sick and put on 50 pounds I wouldn't like it. Even if I can empathize, and would still love him doesn't mean I would find him attractive and sexy. Why is that difficult to understand?

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