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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I kept mine and our kids now have a hyphenated last name. What I don't understand are women who keep theirs and then give the children his. So tradition is okay for the kids (and all that that symbolism implies about second-class status of women) but not for the wife. That feels antiquated, too. I mean, you do all the work and then they get his name? Why? I don't get it. I know hyphenating can be cumbersome, but isn't it weird for everyone in the family to have the same name BUT you?
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Not really.  I kept my last name, and my daughter has my husband's last name.  I chose her first name and her middle name, which is not my last name, but which is consistent with the tradition of how girls in my family are named.  We talked about it, and it was more important to him that she have his last name, and I didn't really care, while I did care more about her given names.  I don't need to have the same last name as her to feel connected and close.  She grew in me for nine months, I sang to her and knew her before anyone else--hell, her cells are floating around in my body.  And I got to pick the name that I call her by every day.  And it's not really strange to have a different last name.  We're the Mylastname-Hislastname Family on holiday cards.  [/quote]

Wait- so you use a made up name that no one actually HAS on your holiday cards? That's unusual.[/quote]

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