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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Yeah, I am old and not as attractive as I once was, but I have a fairly demanding job that I like, 2 teenagers, and a volunteer commitment, and so I don't really dwell on this type of navel-gazing.[/quote]

So, yes, not spending tine thinking about it has some merit, BUT, what happens is this...for women, anyway....things do go south. It's not vanity we are concerned about but your perceived relevancy in this world which, let me say, really goes south. And that's hard to understand. Remember when you were becoming a teenager- everything bloomed over a short period of years and then you were no longer a child? Everyone's perception of you might have been much different than your perception of yourself, which in many cases was one of innocence maybe, a naivety of sorts. It was a while before you saw yourself as an adult.

Well, people will view you as an older lady well before your mind gets there, and it is hard to deal with. You are cut out in the work place, people offer to help you when you don't need it, and yeah, you are not pretty or cute ( if you once were) to the world- which, agree with it or not, played a role in  your life. You are also lifted out of the sexual arena- you are not considered  to be sexual being whether you are or not. Finally,marketing no longer cares about your looks other than to sell you anti wrinkle creams...they no longer care to market to you at all ...for clothes, for shoes ( except comfort shoes, etc.) And you feel that. Men have it all happen differently. They maintain relevancy much much longer..their sexuality is not compromised necessarily even though everyone jokes about the blue pill.

So, it's not naval gazing, it's coming to terms with who you are in the world to the world- glad you have good self esteem because  you will need it at 60.[/quote]

This is all true, but there's not a thing we can do about it. The negativity on this thread is very disheartening, as a woman nearing 50. 
My mom is 73 and she and her friends are very active and engaged in life. They are role models to me. Life is so f-ing short, too short to wallow in this stuff.
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