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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. I should say that he has ADHD and traditional punishments like taking things away aren't a good strategy. As for the pool situation, I'm not sure how you woul envision removing a 6 year old boy from a swimming pool in a way that is t violent or at least physically domineering and aggressive. I'm not going to physically drag him from the pool. I left. I can control my behavior not his. But I would like a positive discipline method to help get rid of what has become a habit.[/quote]

Your excuses for why you "can't" discipline explain why your son is acting like this. You refuse to be the parent. Deal with it then. [/quote]

I agree OP.  The pool situation would be really hard.  I think I'd do four things:

1. talk about it, discuss how it hurts your feelings and that it needs to stop because you don't talk that way to each other in your family.  Ask him what the consequence should be if he does it. Brainstorm with him, come to an agreement.  Then write an agreement down, have him sign it and post it somewhere.  Have some consequences in mind that you can suggest if he doesn't have anything. I find my kids usually have stronger consequences than I'd give :)

2. Since it's become a bad habit, replace it with something else.  Come up with a catchy jingle and sing it during the day instead.  Or play a song a lot.  Seems like it's stuck in his head for some reason.

3. Going along with the habit idea, I think I'd talk to him about how it's become a habit and might be hard to change.  Underscore to him that he's a smart kid and he can catch himself and stop himself because he's a kind boy and loves you and wouldn't want to hurt your feelings.  At the end of the day give him some kind of reward if he hasn't used the song all day (or maybe twice a day - whatever works for him), like a candy or something.  Then reward him for 3 weeks.  Most habits take 3 weeks to change.

4. Since he does it to get your attention, try to address that need in other ways.  Set up some activities for 10 minutes each am and pm to do together.  Make sure his "bucket is filled".

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