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[quote=Anonymous]My first reaction was to talk to the grandma, but after reflection this is what I'd do:
The next time Larla comes over to play, I'd say:
"Larla, it's nice to see you.  I'm so glad that you could come over to play with Jimmy and Janie today.  The last time you were here, Jimmy said that you asked him for money so that he could play with his walkie-talkie.  In our house, we share playthings and we don't charge people for playing, so please don't do that again.  Would you guys like a snack before playing?"
Larla will be stunned to be called out, and will not pull that kind of stunt again.  I agree with a PP that if Grandma is brought in, Larla will likely deny (that's what kids that age do) and Grandma will be in a tough position of whether to tell grand-daughter that she is taking the neighbor's word over hers.
I've done similar things with smaller transgressions, like "Larla -- thanks for coming over to play!  Last time you were here, you made kind of a big mess in Susie's room.  We try to clean up as we go here, so please make sure you put away toys when you are done with them, okay? [kid nods okay].  Thanks!  Have fun!"  I think it's effective, particularly if you can do it in a matter of fact, nice way.  Like -- we still like you as a person and want you as a friend, but that kind of behavior is not okay.

Also, I do think the background is probably a little relevant.  The way that people who grew up in famine conditions tend to hoard food compulsively.  I think it's not unusual for kids that grew up in very deprived circumstances to try to hoard things, get more than their share, etc.[/quote]

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