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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]So, let's play this out...

1) you tell the grandma
2) grandma gets upset with i) your accusation; and ii) her grand-daughter if it's true
3) so, grandma asks her grand-daughter
4) (most likely) grand-daughter tells her it's not true and makes up some story which, most likely, grandma will believe
5) grandma gets pissed at OP and OP's kids 
6) OP just lost her neighbor; and
7) OP's kids lost their friend[/quote]

Or:

1) You tell grandma
2) Grandma says, "Thanks for letting me know. I'll talk to grandkid about it."
3) Grandma talks to grandkid and either believes her or doesn't believer her, and says, "Ok, but you know it's WRONG to make a younger kid pay to play with own toy, right"?
4) Grandkid hopefully gets it and does not repeat the behavior. Moral character shaped for the better. 
 [/quote]

Yes!  This is the "it takes a village" mentality.  When we grew up and were all over the neighborhood if we got caught doing something wrong by another mom, they were on their rotary phone in no time.   :lol:

It amazes me how many people just want to blow this off.  The girl has some scars and issues.  This could turn into something worse the next time if she thinks this is okay.  It isn't just about the OP's kids.  Let the Grandmom know.  Let her decide what to do.

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Actually, in this child's case, the village failed her and she was bounced around and probably doesn't have strong attachments and worries day to day where she will be.  Grandma needs to know to address it with her and help her through as part of building their relationship but the reasons why are different from a typical kid.[/quote]

But telling the Grandmom is being her village because she doesn't have a big one right now.  Being her advocate. Of course it is a little awkward but you are helping this girl in the long run.

These moms here think of it as a threat, as something to be annoyed with, or embarrassed about.   Parents used to be able to take other parents, teachers, coaches, telling them "Suzy is not doing abc but is doing xyz" and the parents would thank them for notifying them and PARENT their kid about xyz.  Then the kid would have to go apologize in person for xyz.  Now parents get annoyed, have excuse, and try and turn it around on the person saying the issue.  This has to change.  We have to be able to help and want to receive help.  This isn't a contest.  It is raising good kind human beings all around you.  [/quote]

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