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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I honestly do end up setting up more play dates with some of the parents I like or find easy to interact with - as well as kids my kids ask about wanting to have play dates with.  There's one kid my DS really liked but I found the mom was pretty high maintenance.  I'd suggest to keep asking some of the kids over & see if that orders a return invite.  Could also ask a whole family over for a bbq or something - although my kids are still 1st grade so might be easier at that age to do that.[/quote]

It really is more about who you as a parent are friendly with as opposed to just who the kids want to play with.  The kids are dependent on parents for coordination and rides.  This continues through middle school.  So yes, you need to do what you can to meet the other parents and become friendly with them. You do not need to become friends and hang out all the time but they need to know you beyond being "Larla's mom" and saying "hi, how's it going?" every once in a while.

Reach out and set up some playdates.  When the mom comes, invite her in for a few minutes to chat and do the same at pick up.  [/quote]

+1+1

DS is 6 and a rising first grader.  I'm a WOHM with a flexible schedule, but since DH is a SAHD he's more often doing drop off and pickup, and he's very outgoing in trying to set up playdates, mostly with SAHM moms or nannies.  And with the flexibility in my schedule, I've met a lot of the other parents and am pretty hands on at school and related activities.  So between DH and me we actively reach out.   And not just to arrange scheduled playdates -- in the better weather, whichever of us is doing pick up will often look for a familiar parent/nanny to join us on an impromptu playground visit.  When it works it's great.  But it's not always so easy.  DS is an only though so we have to keep trying without a lot of focus on the niceties (has the parent reciprocated, do we "click" with the parent, etc.) until we get to the promised land of middle school friendships.      [/quote]

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