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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Growing up in the Midwest my wife called here parents Amma and Papa. She wants our son to call them that too. I've never heard anyone call a grandfather Papa. I think southerners or people in rural areas may use some variant but not straight Papa. To me it's no different than calling him Dad. [b]It seems incredibly inappropriate and even implies something incestuous between him and his daughter.[/b] She doesn't see it. I think that the fact that she called them these things is evidence enough that they are names for parents but she doesn't see it. What's the best way to handle this? We are all together for the week and I feel done after only 24 hours.[/quote]

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i kinda understand being annoyed but the incestuous comment is sick.[/quote]

Not just sick but completely illogical. Even if I agreed that a grandfather who wants to be called papa is trying to be the father, why does that indicate any incestuous intent? Unless you automatically think fathers seek incestuous relationships? Wtf?

That said, I grew up in New England and called both my grandfathers "grandpa." But I knew many people who called their grandfathers "papa," it was not uncommon at all. I never knew anyone who called their father "papa." My own father called his grandfather "pa" and when his first grandchild was born, he said he would like to be "pa" since that was a grandfather name to him. So that's what my kids call my father. I actually love it, it sounds so warm and cozy to me, which is exactly how grandparents should be. (All my father's grandchildren call their own fathers "dad."

FWIW, my mother and her siblings, from upstate NY, called their mother "mother" and their maternal grandmother "mom."

I think OP is being incredibly weird and controlling about this. Bizarre.[/quote]

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