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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Are you new here? They're all 45 year old first time moms. [/quote]

Seriously, DC is like the GrannyMom capital of the world. And no, the alternative is not having kids at 20. Many, many people have kids in their early 30s before the grannies start going crazy about establishing their financial independence pre-kids. [/quote]

I was in grad school in my early 30s, then working, traveling, having fun, making $$$. It's wonderful to have kids later in life. I was able to switch to a good paying job with great work - life balance because of the education and experience that I got pre-kids. Honestly, I feel bad for those moms who had kids early on, work in dead end jobs with no flexibility, never got established, cannot afford a nice spa day, gym, derm appointments, vacations, and have to shop at Sams.   [/quote]

LOL you feel sorry for a demographic that isn't here. As I see it the majority of DCUM posters fall into two camps:

1. Much older moms who are financially comfortable
2. Somewhat younger moms who are financially comfortable

Of course there's outliers but very few of us here are truly struggling because we had kids too early. I had mine at 24 and 28. Just went on vacation this week, get my hair done regularly, wear nice clothes, and have a flexible career that allows me to bring in a second income we don't strictly need, bank it, and still puts me home before 5 pm. I'm 31, have had my kids, and have the rest of my adult life to work, travel with them, and lead a pretty nice lifestyle without having to mortgage myself for IVF at age 43. The older mim crowd seems to have this notion that defying basic biology makes them superior people. It doesn't. Glad you like your choices but that doesn't automatically mean the alternative choices suck. [/quote]

I had a child young enough that I was regularly asked if I was the au pair in parks in DC, and one at 38 so I am part of the granny crowd. I don't understand the hostility on either end. Some of my best friends in the city are significantly older (I met them through child one), and I hope I make new friends (Some who will probably be younger) through child two. I do know that as much as I would like yet another baby (I am in my early forties) my biggest worry would be being around for my child as a young adult. I went through so much, and needed my parents so much, when I was a youg adult. My biggest comfort right now is if I'm not around, my kids are close and will have each other.  In the meantime, let's support each other--no matter the ages.  I also don't see a need to brag PP.  Your life sounds nice, but being a young parent isn't that easy for everyone (certainly wasn't for me)--which is OK--I am still grateful for the experience and wouldn't have it any other way. Nor is being an older parent easy for everyone.  Again, support.[/quote]

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