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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Are you new here? They're all 45 year old first time moms. [/quote]

Seriously, DC is like the GrannyMom capital of the world. And no, the alternative is not having kids at 20. Many, many people have kids in their early 30s before the grannies start going crazy about establishing their financial independence pre-kids. [/quote]

I was in grad school in my early 30s, then working, traveling, having fun, making $$$. It's wonderful to have kids later in life. I was able to switch to a good paying job with great work - life balance because of the education and experience that I got pre-kids. Honestly, I feel bad for those moms who had kids early on, work in dead end jobs with no flexibility, never got established, cannot afford a nice spa day, gym, derm appointments, vacations, and have to shop at Sams.   [/quote]

LOL you feel sorry for a demographic that isn't here. As I see it the majority of DCUM posters fall into two camps:

1. Much older moms who are financially comfortable
2. Somewhat younger moms who are financially comfortable

Of course there's outliers but very few of us here are truly struggling because we had kids too early. I had mine at 24 and 28. Just went on vacation this week, get my hair done regularly, wear nice clothes, and have a flexible career that allows me to bring in a second income we don't strictly need, bank it, and still puts me home before 5 pm. I'm 31, have had my kids, and have the rest of my adult life to work, travel with them, and lead a pretty nice lifestyle without having to mortgage myself for IVF at age 43. T[b]he older mim crowd seems to have this notion that defying basic biology makes them [u]superior people[/u]. It doesn't. Glad you like your choices but that doesn't automatically mean the alternative choices suck. [[/b]/quote]

Here's the truth, sweetie. There are no guarantees in life.  You could be dead tomorrow - either hit by a bus or hit by cancer.  My aunt had kids very young and died at 35 when her oldest was 15.  just dropped dead at a gathering . . . no traveling with HER kids, right?  no time spent with grandchildren, eh?  dead in the grave right now

So you vacationed.  Was it a tour of Italy or trip to Rehoboth?  You got your hair done?  marvelous!  You can spend $ at The Hair Cuttery or $$$$$ at a salon in some hip area.  You're home before 5 and you can bank some of your money.  fantastic!  But there are PLENTY of people (on the young side) who live on ONE income in a middle of the road 'hood) who can one up you b/c they're HOME with their children, too. And guess what?  They vacation on one income.  What about teachers?  home every summer and home at a decent hour for their children between August and June

You're not special, Larla.

And let's also add this - older parents going through IVF have the MONEY to do so. It's not a hardship once you've established yourself.

You're not special, yet your arrogant tone clearly shines through in your post.  You do, however, fail to see the irony in your own post.  I highlighted some lines for you in case you slept through English class.   nice word choice, btw - suck - couldn't find another one that's more appropriate and that clearly gets your point across w/o being condescending and ignorant? [/quote]

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