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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]What in the world is OP going to do when that toddler becomes a grubby elementary school kid tracking germs and mud into the house, leaving cupboards open, etc...put him up for adoption?[/quote]

There's a big difference between a toddler behaving like a toddler and a husband behaving like a toddler![/quote]

Definitely!

The husband is the one supporting you.[/quote]

This is a twisted attempt at logic.

I have a piggish DH similar to OPs. he literally stopped picking up after himself once we moved from an apartment to a house, then had kids.
It is clear from his daily Droppings that he thinks little of his house or property or me or the live-out nanny. In fact his total lack of respect, appreciation and even acknowledgment of what it takes to run a family household is THE reason I don't SAHM. Yes, it would be better for the kids, but DH views it as better and smoother for him. Then he can do even less house or kid stuff, and continue to be a pig.

The ONLY way SAHM works is if the other spouse respects the role. OP's husband does not.
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I'm not sure I'd heed your advice--you seem to have quite an adversarial relationship with your husband.

And where in OP's response is there any mention of the respect, appreciation, or acknowledgement of what it takes to be the sole breadwinner of the house?  The stress that causes?  The annoyance of a commute?  Dealing with crappy co-workers?

OP says she enjoys staying at home, but then says she wants to divorce her husband over the cabinets, unclosed cereal boxes, and light switches.  Aside from his slopiness, is he a good father?  Is he loving in other ways?  OP--what DO you like about your husband?  There is clearly much more at play here.

Relationships are about compromise.  OP is incredibly selfish if she's willing to break up the marriage and a child's parental structure over this.[/quote]

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