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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Dollars to donuts, her DH had a SAHM. [/quote]

I'm thinking the opposite. He probably just assumes that doing the housecleaning is a part of being a SAHM. But, apparently that's not the consensus on DCUM.

I did not know any SAHMs growing up, so I am fascinated by this phenomenon of affluent women, who go to expensive colleges, only to stay at home and raise 1 or 2 children, and not really work outside of the house until the kids are fully grown (if ever). And then somehow don't expect to be doing most of the housework and child rearing.

A previous poster suggested hiring a housekeeper. This is like a plumber saying that he needs the customer do some of the plumbing for him, or that you need to give him extra money, so he can hire a second plumber to do the actual plumbing. Would you want to hire this plumber? [/quote]

I completely agree!! My mom, and my aunt with my cousins, SAH with us in the 70's and 80's. We didn't have housekeepers. Our dads didn't clean. You want the SAH job? Be prepared to do the SAH work, princesses, which includes cleaning and tidying. The job used to be called a "homemaker"'before. For a reason. [/quote]

Although I agree with this generally, I think OP is getting at a basic lack of courtesy. It's a fine line, but even if I had essentially agreed to do all the housecleaning, I would feel disrespected by someone who doesn't bother to throw their own trash away, flush the toilet etc.  There is a difference between having a house cleaner and a servant.[/quote]

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