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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]To the "I do all that and work full-time too" posters:  well, I would too if I had a job outside of the home.  Of course you can get it all done when you need to.  I have posted this before in similar threads, but I prefer having time to making time.  I have plenty of time and I like that... no stress about getting out the door in the morning, no stress about getting errands done, only fun family stuff at night and on weekends, no challenges when my husband has to travel for work, no guilt when I leave the kids on Saturday to go do something strictly for me, plenty of opportunity to travel to visit our family across the country for long periods of time, etc.

If you stay home when kids are in school, you have to figure out how to stay productive and challenged and busy and fulfilled without paid work -- that's easy for me.  If you work outside the home, you have to figure out how to make it to school-day activities, arrange for sick-day childcare, balance job demands with family needs, balance family time with "me" time -- that would be harder for me.  Could I do the latter?  Of course.  Do I prefer the former?  Yeah, so I feel lucky that's what I get to do. [/quote]

True, but it's a lot easier to balance it when DH is helping 50/50. If your husband works, he has to figure this out to, or at least mine does. I don't have to figure out all the stuff you listed. I think SAHMs, at least on this thread, sometimes think of working of having to do everything they do plus work. And I'm sure some working moms have to do that. But some of us have husbands with flexibility and/or just know they need to pitch in equally. I don't make it to every school event but if I'm not there DH is and vice versa (sometimes we are even there together!).

I don't get this debate - I work, I love it, and I don't find life overly hectic. (well, most of the time, sometimes it obviously is). And yes, I even squeeze in exercise. I do have to work which makes the guilt factor go away, but my income is nice and takes care of more than just the essentials. It's nice to add to the college funds and savings every month. I certainly could fill my time as a SAHM and I cetainly don't begrudge those that are SAHMs. Both "choices" or circumstances have pros and cons as these debates always show.[/quote]

Oh, I forgot -- add that one to the lists of "ways that WOHM are superior to SAHMs" -- their husbands must be better!   Husbands of SAHM are all cavemen who don't help with anything except the bank account.[/quote]

I think that is a gross generalization.  Signed, full-time work-at-home mom with a DH that is independent consultant and leaves before breakfast and gets home 8pm.

I envy SAHM's 'time'.  I do feel a tremendous pull in all directions.  I WAH and believe moms should be around as much as possible...which has me working every minute they aren't around...3.5 hours of preschool..during younger ones nap...during a weekend nap, etc...  I host playdates 3-4 afternoons per week, I do drop-off and preschool pick-up, I squeeze in an early morning workout...I now even clean since nanny's rates went up drastically and we cut-out cleaning lady this summer.

I have SAHM friends that try to do a 'girl's night' every couple of Fridays and, ,frankly,  I would like to just veg on the couch and stare at the wall in silence.

We could afford for me to take some time off..but I have such workplace flexibility I don't want to 'mommy-track' myself and lose it all...and my job pays A LOT more than just covering childcare.
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