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[quote=Anonymous]OP, I'm sorry some people on this board are such JERKS.

Good for you for being aware of this, because my dad walked out on my mom when I was 4, and I remember one particularly shitty Father's Day craft in 3rd grade when I finally screwed up the courage to tell the teacher I did not want to make the stupid card because I didn't have a father, and she MADE me do it ("everybody has a father"). I still remember the card - it was blue with a pretty red dragon made out of red sequins glued on. I had to go home & give it to my mom (it literally said "Happy Father's Day") and I remember feeling confused & bad. I'm 34 and remember this like yesterday.

The other PP's bitching are probably the same people who moan about the "war on Christmas" - ugh, ignore them. You're right to be concerned of and aware of your kid's feelings. She doesn't understand everything yet & may not even be able to articulate her feelings.

My best suggestion is to speak with the teacher before hand, so you can (1) figure out what the activity is; (2) explain your family situation to her, hopefully she will help you come up with a good solution (unlike the asses on this board) & will be able to display a little empathy for your kid.

When you have this information you can decide if you want to attend in her dad's place - at 5 this is probably just fine & she will just be glad to have someone special with her. If it's a craft, she can address it to you - & you can let her teacher know why she is doing that.

Personally, I think these kinds of crafts are inappropriate at school unless there's a way to incorporate all kinds of families. Families don't all look alike, some kids have 2 moms, 2 dads, or live with grandparents or other guardians. I don't know why this makes some people so [b] angry. [/b] We're talking about not making 5 year olds feel left out and sad when they may have already suffered a big loss in their life (a mom/dad, etc.). Why is that so offensive to you?

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