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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP instead if focusing on the weight can you approach her with concern about her moods and inability to keep a job? Say you notice she seems unhappy and ask if there is anything you can do to help her- even if it's just to listen to her and let her vent. She sounds very unhappy- you don't know what goes on behind closed doors- maybe her husband is not the white knight you are making him out to be.. Or maybe it's something else but it sounds like she could use some therapy. Don't mention the weight Im sure she is aware and ashamed about it.[/quote]

My SIL started gaining weight when she married her DH. Things looked perfect on the outside (all those trappings of material wealth you mention), but he was steadily turning into an abuser. He criticized her about everything: looks, intelligence, housekeeping, her job, and when the kids came, how she could do better as a mom. Later the abuse turned physical. I don't know what is going on with your DD, OP, but her weight is a symptom, not the cause. Her self-esteem is probably at a low point and the last thing she wants is for anyone to take pics of her and to criticize her weight. If you were a caring person, you would already know that. [/quote]

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