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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm in the early stages of this myself, so certainly no expert.  But I've also spent a lot of time thinking about my mother-in-law who has clearly felt a lifelong disappointment because she had three boys.  In her case, she's really into "feminine" hobbies like cooking and sewing, and she was disappointed that she couldn't share them with her sons.  And maybe she couldn't in the 1970s.

My current plan--again, in the early stages, as my son is only 2.5--is just to create the relationship that I want to have, regardless of sex.  We currently cook and bake together a ton because all toddlers like that (and boy toddlers don't yet know that "it's only for girls").  I was taught to knit by an ex-boyfriend who was his mother's only child, and she was an avid knitter.  I am now an avid knitter myself, and I plan to offer it as a hobby if my son is so inclined.  I obviously won't force any of these things, but it seems that kids like to be invited to share in whatever their parents enjoy.  (I also enjoy volunteering, politics, church, bicycling, and other less-gendered things, which I will share with my son.)  The same thing could be true of reading or celebrity gossip or spa trips or hiking or whatever passions you have that you would want to share with a daughter.

I wonder if one of the reasons that daughters end up closer with their moms than sons is because moms foster those relationships better with their daughters (out of familiarity, presumably).  Moms of only sons don't have any choice--if we want those intimate bonds, we've got to create them with our sons!

(Also, to be clear: I have no idea if my approach will work.  It's just what helps me think about my life as the mom of a boy.)[/quote]

I have 4.5 and 2 year old boy.  They both came to the yarn shop with me a couple of days ago and the older got his first set of knitting needles.  He is beyond thrilled!  My husband has three sisters and he spent tons of time with his mom out in the garden, planting flowers and stuff.  I think you can do so many more "un-gendered" things these days that  for me, having a girl is no longer something I want.[/quote]

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