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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You have to say something just in case there's more to the story, especially if you're like PP and plan to tell other parents about it. You're positive it was the dad? Not an uncle, neighbor, grandpa? [/quote]

Why are so many people on this board so desperate to "prove" that a total stranger to them wasn't racist? [/quote]

Probably because it would be horrific to say something to a child like "Oh my goodness, I had no idea you were [i]this panda-ish[/i]" to a child wearing a top with a panda on it (far reach example here, but you get where I'm coming from) then have that child be confused because it's an odd thing to say, report it to mom as "spic," then have the whole school talking about how you are a racist. I could see something like that happening to me, as could lot of other posters. I bet that's why. Same thing with the real estate agent who closed the house early; I'm not an agent but I would be way more likely to abruptly and socially awkwardly close up something early and be rude than I would be racist, and these things get misinterpreted. YES, people are also racist. But assuming that third-handedly before approaching directly to clarify or understand isn't always best...or accurate.

Sometimes you need to be direct and confront, particularly when going solely off of the word of 5 year old. Even if that 5 year old is trustworthy, her age and understanding of life and vocabulary makes her an unreliable reporter. I do agree that this is worth a follow-up and speculation though. [/quote]

....so you think it is more likely that a man said "panda" to a Hispanic child, than using an ethnic slur for Hispanics to a Hispanic child?

Here's the thing - it might be more likely that YOU said "panda" but racists gonna racist.  If the child said that they heard "spic" out of all the words in the world, I'm guessing that's exactly what she heard. [/quote]

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