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For my mil, one of the big recognizable things is the idea of "splitting". In her world, people are either all good or all bad.  My dh was the "good" one, his brother the "bad" one.  I was the "good" dil, my sil was the "bad" one.  Until I wasn't, of course.  Her reactions to everything are extreme.  She's never just miffed about something, she's furious about it.  No one makes an innocent mistake in her world - they are out to get her and take her down and are horrible, damaged people who will never change.  And they need help of course, but she is just fine and needs no help, thankyouverymuch.

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OMG, this is my mom.  Over and over, a new person entering family is "good" (perfect, wonderful, my mom loves this person), then they do something - could be the most minor thing you can think of that no one else would bat an eye at and then they turn "bad" and they are forever bad no matter what.  Any time their name comes up my mom spews the most hateful and vile comments you can imagine.  But to the person's face, she couldn't be nicer.

My mom is constantly "horrified" over the most normal everyday things people do.  She speaks ill of her closest, oldest, dearest, kindest friends.  She is jealous of everyone.  She thinks nothing of criticizing my choices, my home (where she's happy to "vacation") and everything in it.  I spend as little time with her as possible.  She's a complete phony and somehow has almost everyone fooled.[/quote]

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