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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]PP with sis sounds borderline, PP with brother sounds schizophrenic (which actually may be more treatable).

Let me be very clear, if they have never worked, they will only be eligible for SSI which is like $700 month. They can own a property to live in and still be eligible; if you pay for their rent or food, that will drop their stipend significantly. So it's best to set them up in a place of their own that will allow eligibility. Do this now before all your parents resources are gone.

Also, if you parents have the fund, look into Gunderson Residence in McLean Hospital, but it is $$$$ so may not be option.

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This is the PP with the BPD sister.  Thanks for the information.  I know disability won't be much - I'm hoping that she could be eligible for Medicaid too, and I have begged my parents to talk to a lawyer to set up a trust that wouldn't impact getting benefits.  I bet they have enough money to buy a very small apartment for her (they live in a much cheaper city than DC), but they seem in perpetual denial.  I have tried everything with them - from cutting them off until they come up with a plan for my sister after they die to basically begging them to contemplate the situation once they die.  They keep telling me this is not my responsibility and I shouldn't care, but that is just insane.  I admit to having a fair amount of anger towards them for their handling of the situation.  My mom's behavior certainly impacted my sister's mental health and now they just seem to think that she will just have to face the consequences when they die, which seems inhumane.  It is a mess.  The mental health system in this country is a disgrace, and I wish I could win the lottery to support my sister.  I often daydream of finding a very high-paying job just so I don't have to worry about it.  But the truth is I will never make that kind of money, and my husband basically hates her because she has had some pretty despicable behavior.

Sadly, my sister has already been in McLean.  It cost a ton of money and, unfortunately, did not really help.[/quote]

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