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I'm not projecting because none of my inlaws or extended relatives even know about my infertility story.  And I have never done any of the things you say your SIL has done.

I also didn't paint your SIL with rose colored glasses.

But your story is mixed up.  First, she's mean because she's infertile and you've endured it out of compassion for her situation, but she's pushing the limits.  Then she is mean but using "infertility" as an excuse to behave badly.

I'm not sure she's "bullying" elderly parents into given money.  She can say what she wants, and they can say no.  We're talking about adults.  And that doesn't involve you; it's between her and the parents.

If you don't like her and think she is a "bully" and mean and behaves badly, then distance yourself from her.  Your an adult.  You qualify everything with "I've always been incredibly kind to her regarding infertility."  I don't know what that means.  Do you want a cookie?

If she doesn't something you're upset about, holding a grudge but not saying anything to her isn't "being kind."  It's passive aggressive.  If you are bothered by something she does and you aren't willing to let it go, then you should tell her and then if you reach a standstill, then distance yourself from her.

You need to separate the infertility issue with the relationship issue.  That's my point.  It sounds like you are just as guilty as she is of making all of these disagreements about her infertility, instead of about your relationship, disputes or wrongs that have gone unaddressed, et cetera.

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If someone says no and then you escalate a situation to get our way - that is bullying.

No where has OP said she doesn't like her SIL or her SIL doesn't like her. No where has she said she has held a grudge. In fact I am pretty sure she said she has let things go in the past until recent incidents.

If the SIL makes everything about infertility then her family has no choice but to accept that every issue is about infertility.

I feel like you haven't even read what has been said because there is no way you'd be excusing it. Unless you are just being contrary on purpose because you are pissed off the OP dared to mention infertility. [/quote]

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