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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm trying to determine if I am being emotional and dramatic or if in fact this is really asking a lot from his company?  He is in an engineering technical role and makes about $150K per year.  I feel like this ask should include a substantial bonus or something but so far nothing has been offered other than a return home for one paid week every 4-6 weeks.

What do you think?  I want to be a supportive spouse but this is going to be extremely difficult on our family.  I work full time as well and also travel about 1-2 days every other week.  We have a 2 and 5 year old.

Thanks in advance for objective perspectives.[/quote]

There are so many responses here that keep telling you "you can do it!!!" Fuck that. Don't do it. You didn't sign up to be a single mom while you're married, and your husband has 0 responsibility for your kids for 5 freakin' months! Are you kidding me?

I know there are military spouses that have it worse - much worse. But OP did not marry into the service. [b]And even military deployments get bonuses[/b].

You are not being dramatic. You are reacting to having your partner taken away from you for 1/2 a year, and society judging you for not being OK with it. You have a career, and so does he. Let him take the career hit this time. Your gender has you taking the hit the rest of the time.[/quote]

I agree that OP did not marry into the military---but I feel that in saying  "military deployments get bonuses" you should clarify that the "bonus" (family separation allowance) is only $250/month.  Not exactly a windfall.  [/quote]

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