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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Definitely wait until school's out to start to focus.  How is your DS's college counselor.  Is he in public or private?  A counselor can make a huge difference and alleviate the battles between parent and child.

My DS is a senior in private school.  Last year, he wouldn't consider talking to us about schools.  Like the wine analogy, it is a big scary thing out there and without context it is pretty  impossible for a 17 year old to come up with a list of schools.  DS's counselors at school were great and he could talk to them without us.  Of course, we had meetings with all of us there.  Another thing I did was to hire a college consultant to try to find schools that would be a good fit for him.  He clicked with her and they quickly developed a working list.  We were glad to help but we were clearly just adding stress for him.  She guided him through the Common App and the rest of the application process.  Yes, he did submit the common app on the last possible day for some of his early action schools.  She was a neutral third party he respected and listened to.  DS's school counselors were seriously great, but the added consultant made us not the "bad guys." [b] We didn't have to nag him.  She reminded him.[/b]  Obviously, DH and I worked with her too about types of colleges, sizes of schools, geographic locations.  Ultimately, we all agreed on 11 schools schools (easy to do so many with the common app) and he got into 10 of the 11 he applied at.

It is really hard to be zen, but do whatever you can to make the process as zen-like as possible.  [b]DH and I are tremendous Type A people, so it was hard to let go.[/b]  I know he is very happy with his choice and he really "owns" the choice.

[b]If you can't find zen, red wine is a quick substitute[/b].

Good luck.[/quote]

Hiring a private counselor to "nag" your kid is "letting go"?  Hope you order your wine by the case.

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