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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Where in Asia?[/quote]

It's a split between a few months in Korea, China, and Taiwan.[/quote]

That's better than Bangkok. He can't get in too much trouble in those places. :D [/quote]

Actually, he can.  We work overseas and I've seen SO MANY American marriages break up.  We're in Eastern Europe, but have colleagues who have done the Asia circuit, and they have tales of an even greater number of broken marriages from China than here.  OP, you need to understand that your DH will be a desirable target for beautiful young women who are very, very poor, and in countries in which an American/Western husband is considered an amazing trophy-prize to be won at any costs.  Women will throw themselves at him everywhere.  I'm sure he's a good guy, but I wouldn't want my DH in one of those places alone.  Imagine how easy it is to "slip up" if you are a guy alone for months in a place like that, and young, gorgeous women who would be way out of his league at home thrown themselves at him, over and over, on a daily basis.

Can you go with him?[/quote]

You do know a man will cheat if he want to regardless of location, right?  I've
never understood the mindset of women like you. You really believe just being next to him everyday prevents him from cheating? [/quote]

Different PP.  I kind of think it's somewhere in between.  I think some men will always find a way to cheat.  Some men won't cheat no matter how easy it would be or how likely they could get away it with it.  But there is a third group of men.  Those men won't go out of their way to cheat, but if an easy opportunity to do so presents itself (especially if they are not getting needs fulfilled regularly due to either distance, like in this case, or other issues), then they'll go along.

Same with women.  In fact, people in general.  When it comes to various moral issues, there are some people who have a strong internal sense of not doing wrong, even if they could get away with it.  There are some people who will go out of their way to do wrong, no matter what the risks, because they want the pleasure or whatever.  And there is that group of people in the middle who usually will do the right thing, but if they have an opportunity to do wrong and know they can get away with it, they'll cave.

Only OP knows where her husband falls.  And even then, maybe she doesn't know because he's never had the opportunity before.

But either way, I don't think location matters.  The issue isn't where he goes.  It's that he'll be away in another country for an extended period of time, so if he is at all tempted, it will be easy for him to cheat and get away with it.

And yes, there are people who normally wouldn't cheat but may do so if presented with such an easy opportunity.  [/quote]

Ordinarily I would agree. But I lived for years in one of those outposts where the very young beautiful women are looking for American husbands. And I saw a LOT of marriages break up there. A shocking number of them.

It doesn't sound like this is one of OP's concerns, so this particular thread is probably not really very helpful, that said.[/quote]

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