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[quote=Anonymous]OP here.  Thanks PP for sharing more of your story and perspectives.  I am finding it very helpful!

To answer one of your questions, no we really do want a second child and having an only child is not an option at all for us.  I am an only child, and I absolutely hated growing up as an only child, but I dislike it more as an adult.  I have always felt/continue to feel all alone in the world, growing up with no siblings and having no extended family now.  My parents are retired, moved far away, and are not involved much at all in my life or my daughter's life unfortunately--this is their choice.  They are far more interested in spending their retirement watching TV in a far away place than being involved (and they're not that old).  We don't have any local family, so I feel that makes it even more important to have a second child, to give my daughter more family.  My husband's family also lives far away and we are not close with them at all.  Also we really want a second child, our family does not feel complete to either my husband or I.  Raising an only child is not the path I want to be on, since I had such a miserable experience being an only child myself.  Granted, my parents did a lot of things wrong in raising an only child, such as not making much effort to build relationships for me with my many cousins (all of whom lived far away) but still, being an only child is not an experience I want my daughter to have.

Did you do fresh or frozen donor eggs?  I'm mainly considering fresh as they have a higher success rate.  How long did you try with your own eggs?  Did you do IVF?  I guess I feel that my chances of success with IVF are so dismal that it's not worth even trying.

I guess I'm leaning more toward donor eggs than adoption at this point, but I still have a lot of worries/fears about the process and the pregnancy.  I consulted with a maternal fetal medicine doctor about donor egg pregnancies and he told me they have a greater complication risk than natural pregnancies.

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