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[quote=Anonymous]OP, I'm going to chime in here and agree with PPs that you are not ready for adoption/DE...but I'm saying this from a place of sympathy.  I have a DD from IVF with OE.  We were fortunate that one of the frozen embryos took so that I am now pregnant again with her petri-dish twin, but I was very certain that I could not do DE or adoption if it didn't despite very much wanting a second child.

My concerns were not the same as yours, but some run along the same lines of having difficulty wrapping my head around a child who was not genetically related to me etc.  Adopting a child or even half a child (which is one way to look at DE) is not something to enter lightly.  One of my best friends has an older sister who is adopted, and there were issues that she continued to struggle with even in high school.  My DD's nanny is currently in the midst of the foster-to-adopt process.  I know from being close to people who have been/are going though the process that it's not something I am likely to be able to square myself to emotionally.  I don't think that makes me a bad person, just honest about who I am.

Counseling may help you overcome these misgivings, but I'm offering the perspective that there is nothing wrong/bad/unusual about you if you are unable to do so.  Adoption takes a very specific kind of emotional fortitude.[/quote]

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