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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here...um...spoke too soon.

I arrived home from dinner last night to find one of the living room closets wide open with a pile of stuff spilling out onto the floor. I knew my sister had used that closet for storage and it was always a disaster in there, so I got used to not opening it. Well it turns out that she never cleaned that closet out. But she did drop by last night to take a few things and just left the mess there.

ARGHHHHHHHHH!

I texted and called her for at least an hour. No response. I cannot believe this. My living room is a mess again! I was so happy! Now I'm enraged (and confused...one of the boxes is seriously just rocks...and another is mismatching shoes)!

I found a website called MakeSpace that will come over and get her stuff, put it in storage and I guess deliver it back to her when she's ready. I just texted her that I'm only paying for the first month and she can have the stuff once she has paid me back for that.

[b]I'm so sad. I really thought she and I had worked through this and could still be on good terms. Is that next to impossible now? I feel so disrespected! Why won't this horrible saga just end??!![/b][/quote]

I'm sorry, OP.  You and your sister (and your mother) have years worth of lousy dynamics, from what you've described, and those aren't going to be fixed quickly or with one action, like her moving out.  People aren't like that, as much as we want them to be, including ourselves.

Put her stuff in storage for one month and please consider seeing a good therapist for you.  That's not an insult, it's a tool to help you figure out how best to live a different life.  It won't be easy, but, IME, is very, very worth it.  Good luck.[/quote]

I really might do that. I cried 3 times last night every time I walked back into my living room. She literally just dumps all over my life. I feel sick over it. [/quote]

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