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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]AAP has enough space for everyone who qualifies, so what some other families do has no bearing on your child.
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Sure it does. The teacher has had to give up trying to do much that requires real thinking and going more into depth now in my child's AAP center classroom, because half the class is the product of prepping and can't actually think at the level that a gifted program should bring out in gifted children.[b] Oh but they can study and grind their little worker bee hearts out.[/b] They belong in gen ed, and gen ed should be higher quality. Ultimately I don't blame anyone for clawing and cheating their way out of the teach-to-the-lowest-ability gen ed mindset. Just don't kid yourself that it is without consequences.

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And that's why Asian kids are admitted at lower rates to elite schools than their scores would suggest.  They're hard workers, but they aren't creative or innovative thinkers. They aren't as smart IQ-wise as the white kids who have the same scores.  Their scores overestimate their abilities.  [/quote]

I don't think this is actually true.  I think this is something white people tell themselves to feel better.[/quote]

Basically. I was an Indian kid who was pushed in school and sports. Also got to travel the world and make all sorts of friends. Dated. Partied. Was not a robot. Had ideal childhood. Liberal arts and science degrees. Am doctor and aspiring writer/bodybuilder. My little brother now nanotech engineer/lawyer. So go on with more ridiculous stereotypes.

[b]Kids are smart enough to be pushed without ruining their childhoods and I don't understand why people think the two are mutually exclusive.[/b] [/quote]

Some kids are okay with the push, some kids will resent the push. Good for you that the push did not make you resentful enough to hate your mother. Why? Because the direction where your mother pushed was the same direction as your interests.  You are Indian. You are a doctor. That is quite a common occurrence, hence the stereotypes.  But if you weren't a doctor and only made your living by being a professional body builder, then I will wonder if your mother considered you successful after she pushed you in school.

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Umm, not really. No. Not at all. The point is simply to give your kids more options.

Take my brother for example.

My parents pushed him into electrical engineering when the naval academy bounced him bc of medical issues.
He hated it. He wanted to be a navy pilot.

But then when he graduated, he had options.
He started by doing research at a cutting edge nanotechnology company.
He loved it...and then got published and then got to teach in Australia and then got a masters in physics to expand his knowledge and then realized what he really wanted to do was be part of process that brings tech out and who gets to make what and call what novel, etc.
So he went to law school.

So...at the age of 30, he had three degrees, was published, had traveled all over to talk about cool stuff, AND got a job straight out of law school paying 4 times the national average of a new law grad bc of his background in technology (he is an IP attorney).

This job has meant good salary, more travel all over the world, and more opportunities in the last six years. Oh, and plenty of dating opportunities, too.

18 years ago, an 18 year old heartbroken boy screamed at his parents for "making him do engineering."

It was just about opening the door wider with a stronger foundation. He takes his dumbo doctor sister (me) to his fancy country club to play tennis and have nice meals and talk about life and work and family. Seems like it all worked out.

Neither of us were math/science kids as youngsters. I was always nose in novels, drawing my own comic strips, writing stories, playing sports, and spoke 5 languages. I wanted to be a doctor to directly help people. And disease processes fascinated me.
He was the ROTC badass who loved tennis, golf, and airplanes. 
Math/science helped us achieve our dreams. They were not an end to themselves, because neither of us were math and science kids to begin with. [/quote]

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