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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]So... my early ES Aspergers child chose a ridiculous outfit to wear to school today. I had to make him wear socks that matched. He thought it would be funny bc recently school did a wacky-dress day for school spirit. And, of course, my Aspie thinks that now he can just be wackily dressed any day he likes now. So... thanks to school for introducing that concept for a socially challenged child!

Anyway -- I made him wear matching socks. There were threats and tears. He ended by telling me "I'm having a really rough morning because of this!"

So... do we choose to let our child have autonomy over the things they can control or enforce a dress code that makes them unhappy? I guess in early ES he isn't making himself a target just yet -- not causing his own exclusion or victimization with his clothing choice just yet -- so... we're ok with a ridiculous outfit?

Just wanted to update all the educators out there. This can kinda be like the campaign against Indiana Gov Pence where women are emailing about their periods. We can give constant updates on our child's clothing and whether or not the choice is ok or not! [/quote]

I think you have to balance your child's choices and what might be a detrimental. I don't perceive any of this as an attack.

If a child wants to wear something, is hellbent on wearing it, and doesn't care about what comments they might get- then let them make that choice. If their social issues are preventing them from making good choices- then you have to decide if/when to intervene and at what cost.

Just don't expect that other kids won't notice these things and that your child will be completely shielded from the result. I hate unkindness and bullying- but I also don't expect that other children to behave like little adults at all times  (they have their own growing to do) or a teacher to be available to intervene every interaction.

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