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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Op here - I don't agree he's not willing to work on it, they did for a long time but the "work" didn't work

Kids are 8 and 6

[b]We have been dating 6 mo[/b], not ready to move in or anything, but serious enough to start spending time with his kids and move beyond compartmentalized dating.  Don't want to take that step though if long term marriage doesn't seem doable which is why I'm asking the question now[/quote]

It is doable, of course. I just don't understand why a woman would do this to herself. Are you absolutely positively sure he is your only viable option for a family? [/quote]

This, OP, x 1000.

Of course it's doable. If he is absolutely the man you want to love now and forever, and are willing to walk over hot coals for, then go for it. Just realize that you are signing up for a lot of problems here that you would not have in other circumstances. EVERY marriage has some problems, but this is coming with a built-in set that you cannot even anticipate yet (nor can he), nor figure out how to deal with. The major issue is: Other people are going to always have a say in your life (his ex, their kids), whereas if you marry someone without this type of baggage you are, more or less, starting with a clean slate.

Only you can decide if you are OK with that.[/quote]

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