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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My dad is an engineer, and was the best dad. He showed up to everything, took sick days when my brothers or I were sick because his hours were pretty flexible.

My parents have been married for almost 40 years, and my dad is the hopeless romantic. My parents married after dating less than a year, and while I don't think my dad planned the wedding he is always planning great anniversary gifts.

The only downside is that for birthdays and Christmas gifts he is hopelessly practical, and had no idea why my mom was upset to receive a vacuum for her birthday one year. Now my mom just expects practical gifts and looks forward to their anniversary for more romantic gifts. Also, my dad is really good with money. He's never made a high salary, but is going to be able to retire in style. His budget is extremely detailed, and a little overwhelming.

He was really the best dad ever. I bought a house recently, and he's always willing to help me fix things, or give me instructions over the phone for how to fix things. [/quote]

This is essentially what I hope for minus the practical gifts part. So far, BF has been outstanding with Christmas gifting, but I really don't care about the gifts so much as I care about the quality of time we have together. Since he is new out of his PHD program, his work is pretty intense right now as it is not direct government, but contracted with government work so often times he is coding even when he's not on the clock per se.

I just want to make sure that my decision is right to marry him and raise a family together even though I know there's no guarantee that things wouldn't change down the line, but I don't have many friends who are married to STEM guys so it's hard to relate.

I'm a full time working professional who will not be able to do the SAHM thing at least not full time because for my career to be on track, I need to put in face time with clients. BF's career allows him work flexibility so in the event of snow days, sick days, he will have to be able to handle that from home. He's already told me he thinks this won't be an issue for him, but I was just concerned that if his mind is too involved with work, what does that mean for the child(ren)'s safety, well being, etc.

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Each person is an individual. I don't think you should take what people are writing here and apply it to your decision to marry your boyfriend. If you are, are you going to ignore the posts where the husbands are messy, never finish projects and are generally scatter-brained?[/quote]

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