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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]So Op tele works + her 1 kid goes to daycare....what's the problem?

She can't do errands during the day? Doesn't know how to engage with her kid outside of daycare? [/quote]

Her problem is that she has zero flexibility in her schedule and apparently no partner to help in the evenings or turn their child over to so she can go to urgent care or something. She's burnt out and doesn't want to take her daughter shopping after a long day at daycare.

I get it, but this is depression making her resistant to the obvious "fixes" (more childcare, more outsourcing, more DH involvement).[/quote]

I'm trying to find better childcare, but it's really limited.  We're on waiting lists.  We can't afford to outsource much, and are actually in discussions about dropping to once a month housecleaning or getting rid of it altogether.  I do have a lawn service, which helps a bit.  I could probably do more auto-order through Amazon.  I tried doing a lot more premade meals from the grocery store and it got very expensive very quickly.  I have started Sunday meal planning, which has helped.

DH can't be involved right now.

Another PP was right, I don't think it's depression.  I really think I'm just having a hard time adjusting to this - working full time, DH being gone, having a toddler.

Do so many people really run errands during the day when they're supposed to be working?  That wouldn't fly at my job, but I have a micromanager boss who calls me several times a day, and in our culture, when you're "at work", you're working. I'm really curious about this since so many people suggest I leave and do grocery shopping or whatever.[/quote]

Forget the waiting list, what a scam imo.  I would look for a home sitter, maybe another SAHM that only watches a few kids to make a little money. That will save you a lot. I get up a little early in the morning and each day throw a load in, put a meal together in the crock pot.  One job each day helps imo.[/quote]

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