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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]What's changed that you aren't attracted to him anymore?[/quote]

I guess when we were single and in our early to mid thirties I was down for whatever and not busy cooking cleaning and taking care of DD. Back then DH was my focus but now I'm all consumed with 100% of the household, yard, maintenance, and childcare duties except one preschool drop off a week. I don't even think about sex. I'm utterly exhausted. We have no family in the area either.[/quote]

Think you're repulsed at your situation.  Who is taking care of you?  You are running around ragged. [/quote]

Yeah, if my husband was working 70 hours a week, and I was handling all the housework, yardwork, and childcare, I wouldn't be interested in sex, either.  And if my husband never had time to help out with any of this stuff, but was constantly groping me, I'd be feeling repulsed and resentful, too.  And if I told him that I didn't like being grabbed and groped, and he kept doing it anyway, I would really be pissed off.  Because that comes across as him caring only about what he wants, and not what you would enjoy.  It feels like he wants sex, but doesn't actually care about you.

OP, you have got to get a break.  Hire a cleaning service.  Hire a handyman.  Hire a lawn service.  Hire a babysitter so you can go to the gym.  Whatever you need to do to give yourself some regular downtime.  And then, talk to your husband and tell him that he's attractive and you love him, but you are totally exhausted and resentful and something has to change.  [/quote]

I agree. Would she then be attracted to him?  Or does OP know no matter what she wouldn't.

No matter what she does need more free time, probably both of them.[/quote]

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