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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP have a seat next to me, sister. My in-laws pull the same crap. Endless talking about how much money, time and freedom they have to do whatever they want. They divorced recently and have just been living it up. My MIL has a boyfriend with a harley and my FIL is running around the world doing god knows what. Shudder.

Meanwhile, like you I am raising small kids, working, and trying to make our ends wave to each other. My parents are gone, so it's just the in-laws.

What burns me up the most is this. [b]They want their freedom and ability to live without any obligations to their children[/b]. That's fine. But when my FIL had a stoke while visiting (he parks his car in our garage when he travels since we live near the closest international airport who burned up her sick leave taking care of the man? Me. Who moved him in for a month so he could recuperate? Me. Who drove his ungrateful ass to endless doctors appointments and therapies. Me.  He's not even my father. I got stuck with this because I work from home and have build up leave that my husband doesn't.  Right after he left, we had to move. Did anyone offer to help or even bother calling to say man that's sucks and it's been hard. No.

And you know what the man did? He just waltzed out, went on with his life and didn't even thank me. Neither did any of his children.

I am so over my in laws. I didn't even realize it until I wrote this how over them I am.[/quote]
Exactly what obligation do they have? Is it financial, is it childcare? What exactly are they  supposed to do for us?  Is this generation so surprised and overwhelmed with the challenges and difficulties of adulthood that we are looking to place blame somewhere and for many of us that blame lays squarely on our parents who we perceive as not 'helping enough'? I truly do not understand this attitude. GROW UP!
And pp, if you are not willingly helping out another person, do.not.do.it.
But to do it and then go back and bash the person, is petty and self-serving. I helped out one of my parents near the end of their life, this person was not nearly the kind of parent they should have been during my childhood. And when they were sick they were neither cooperative nor grateful, but I did what I felt needed to be done. I did what I felt was needed, what was right and within the boundaries I set for myself and my family. 
It just baffles me that folks look at their aging parents and get mad and are resentful because the parents are enjoying their lives and the supposedly adult lives feel their own lives are a slog. Try this: make some positive changes in your own life, look to yourselves to be happy, understand that their will times that life sucks and you just have to suck it up and get thru it. Get a clue that being happy for others adds a great measure of happiness to your own life and leaves room for good things  and positive attitudes to come your way. [/quote]

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