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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Here is a good explanation about why "snooping" is good for a marriage and blind trust is bad.

http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi8121_snoop.html

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To each their own, but if my spouse said I wasn't entitled to privacy because I was now married, I would end my marriage.[/quote]

+1...in a hot friggin minute! [/quote]

+2  I put up with this snooper crap in my first marriage, and then two girlfriends following that.  Now I bail at the first whiff.  I made this very clear to now DW before we got serious.  Snoopers are insecure and easy to spot, and their buttons are easy to push to find out how respectful of privacy and [i]independence[/i] (and that's really what this is about: your spouse|partner might be doing something you don't know about and aren't involved in).   [/quote]

I suspect Wife #1 got your number right, so did the two girlfriends. DW will also get tired of your bs down the road.  There's privacy and then there's someone that is secretive.  We never make the other feel like they can't look at each's phone, computer, etc.  Mine crashed so I was welcomed to use his.

If I was involved with someone that hid everything you can bet I would check on them.  We're not talking about bathroom privacy, but basic openness.

If your spouse wasn't allowed to use your phone computer, look at your FB etc.. then you're the one with the problem.[/quote]

What if your spouse said ok but this is off limits. Or, how do you deal with the following situation.

DW's mother wrote to me to talk to me about DW decompensating. She has a mental health issue that creeps back. I need to be very careful in addressing this with DW. Mom will email or text. Sometimes it's much ado about nothing. Sometimes something. But nonetheless, I need to keep this from DW until a decision is made. If she has unfettered access, it could be a real problem. [/quote]

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